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 enlarge | Author: Valerie Frankel
Publisher: St. Martin's Press
Category: Book
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Avg. Customer Rating:  17 reviews
Sales Rank: 51520
Media: Hardcover
Number Of Items: 1
Pages: 256
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Dimensions (in): 8.4 x 5.5 x 1.1
ISBN: 0312373929
Dewey Decimal Number: 813.54
EAN: 9780312373924
ASIN: 0312373929
Publication Date: September 2, 2008
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 So honest and insightful November 16, 2008
I think every woman will identify with Frankel's lifelong body-image struggles, about which she is gut-wrenchingly honest in this book. It's a brilliant, truthful path to achieving outer--and inner--peace and self esteem. A must read.
Everybody can relate in some way November 6, 2008
A really interesting memoir about Frankel's lifetime issue with weight, body image, and dieting. Anybody (especially women) who has ever tried to lose weight will relate to this book in some way. Frankel goes deep, emotionally and psychologicaly to figure out why she continues to gain and lose weight. An eye-opening and good read!
 I wanted to like this... October 31, 2008
5 out of 8 found this review helpful
I wanted to like "Thin is the New Happy." I was looking forward to reading it. There are parts of it that are quite readable and moments when I felt sympathy for the author, particularly when reading about her abusive childhood. Like millions of women (and probably a lot of men too) Frankel fixated on her weight and body image instead of dealing with life's uncertainties. This book is supposed to be about her journey from self-hatred to self-acceptance.
Overall I found the author lacked a consistent message. Just when she's determined to abandon making everything about her looks, she does something like pose nude to prove she's hot. How is that helping the problem? She's still on the same roller-coaster, being self-exultant one moment and self-hating the next. Why is it that women with professed low self-esteem often think so highly of themselves? I think it would take a pretty big ego to pose nude for a national magazine and call yourself "hot." Frankel does that, all the while talking about her self-hatred.
Frankel self-diagnoses as someone who is excessively "goal-oriented." I don't think that even begins to cover it. What Frankel seems most concerned with is having an extraordinary life. This comes up most notably when she interviews a childhood tormentor who once called her fat. She insists on pointing out how much more interesting her life is compared to his, when in fact I think they don't seem to be living very different lives. Why does she feel the need to think she's better than other people?
In the end, I found this book sad. What it showed me is not a woman gaining self-confidence but rather an example of how pointless competition brings out the worst in people. I suspect both Frankel and her tormentors are people who think happiness is a contact sport, and the last woman standing is the victor. It will be a great day when people move beyond this.
 Horrible and self-hating October 14, 2008
19 out of 27 found this review helpful
I was really disappointed by this book. I am a eating disorder psychologist and I thought this book would offer some perspective, as in, the title is ironic and thin really is not the new happy. Instead this superficial book means exactly what the title says. Thin does equal happiness for her. As a child she was teased and abused, mostly by her mother, for being chubby. As an adult, she abuses herself in every way possible - diets, body hatred, drugs, alcohol. It seems her only redemption was losing a small amound of weight as an adult (appox 15 pounds) and becoming "thin enough" to like herself. The ultimate low in this book is a revenge fantasy where she imagines a former high school tormenter as now obese and stupid. For this author fat = stupid and a whole range of other negative stereotypes. I wish this woman had therapy instead of writing this book.
Entertaining read that hits home. October 10, 2008
5 out of 6 found this review helpful
I mostly liked this book. It was funny, entertaining, and at times, sad. Frankel writes well. This is a book you can breeze through. I could relate to Frankel's body image and self-esteem issues. Her obsession with her weight is something many women can relate to.
While Frankel uses a lot of self-deprecating humor, she also gets a tad preachy at times. Preachy may not be the correct word. Long-winded may be a better term. There is a section where she goes on about how she is a "striver" and has "dreams" (unlike some people she once knew)! I think that's something readers can deduce on their own: She went to Dartmouth, she worked for years at a major woman's magazine, she has written many published novels.
It seemed that Frankel was/is on a quest for self-actualization. For most of the book she seems open, forgiving, and willing to admit her flaws, but she is a tad snobby and self-righteous. When she meets, Z, an acquaintance from junior high that used to tease her unmercifully about her extra poundage, she speaks about him in such a mean-spirited way. She claims that she isn't any better than Z, but you get the overwhelming feeling that she does think she's better. She snottily proclaims him as "just a bundle of skin, a thoughtless consumer of earth's oxygen." I lost all respect for Frankel at this moment. (I wanted to drop the book, but I kept reading.) I can't help to view her as mean-spirited and unforgiving at the moment she trash-talks Z, who is now a 40- something year-old man. This entire section where she speaks about Z was a huge turn-off. Her views of a certain "soulless state", her snobby views that Paris and London are "predictable destinations". I had to laugh near the end when Frankel described a trip to Disney World in Orlando and Fisherman's Wharf. How terribly pedestrian, Frankel! You can almost forgive the author for rudely talking about Z. She was wounded by his words. But, I have to wonder how a person could be so unforgiving to a person that was 12, 13, or 14-years old when the transgressions occurred.
Overall, this was an entertaining read. I wish the author the best of luck with her efforts to be at peace with her body.
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