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The Art of Dying | 
 enlarge | Author: Peter Fenwick
Creator: Elizabeth Fenwick
Publisher: Continuum UK
Category: Book
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Media: Paperback
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Pages: 256
Shipping Weight (lbs): 0.7
Dimensions (in): 7.6 x 5.1 x 0.9
ISBN: 0826499236
Dewey Decimal Number: 306.9
EAN: 9780826499233
ASIN: 0826499236
Publication Date: September 29, 2008
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A new book to help the dying, their loved ones and their health care workers better understand the dying process and to come to terms with death itself.
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Bringing Death to Light September 22, 2008
14 out of 15 found this review helpful
Dylan Thomas's feelings surrounding his father's death were "Rage, rage against the dying of the light". Death was something to be fought. It's an enemy, not a friend to be welcomed. While the Fenwicks might not swing to the opposite side, they do suggest our culture is obsessed with prolonging life. As a result, we have lost the ability to help people to die a good death. "Hi-tech around the deathbed is sometimes more concerned with the feelgood factor of the relatives and the medical profession, who need to feel they have done everything they can, than with the peace and comfort of the dying,"
The authors claim 67 per cent of people die in a hospital among staff untrained and unequipped to answer their emotional, social and spiritual needs. They write, "We realize the value of a 'birth companion' during childbirth. Perhaps we should now consider that the 'death companion' may have an equally important part to play."
However, they seem nebulous regarding what this means. They suggest a companion is someone who is there, not who necessarily does anything specific. While I agree that "Holding their hands and talking to them may give more comfort than we realize.", at the same time, are there specific things that should be considered in light of death? That is, are there claims about death that each person should evaluate?
It's been said death is an interesting statistic - it's one out of one. The truth is, death has a sobering quality. A brush with it can shake a person to their core. This is what I wish the authors had spent more time on - that is, the clarifying affect of death. When facing death, what becomes most important? If there is an after-life, what seems most reasonable to conclude about it? Is it possible to be wrong about one's view of death? If so, how do we not only comfort and reassure, but do so truthfully? Perhaps those are questions better suited for a hospital chaplain. If so, it would have been helpful to have a few pages on how to select one, or even how to select a spiritual guide well before death.
The strongest part of the book is the practical suggestions for those dying
1 Forgive others and seek their forgiveness; heal broken relationships, however late in the day
2 Search out old friends with whom you have lost touch
3 Value life without clinging to it, and live each day as if it were your last
4 Die where you would most like to - whether at home or in a hospice; alone or surrounded by family
5 Trust your instincts; patients know when their end is near
For relatives and friends
1 Talk to the dying about death if they wish; don't go to great lengths to avoid the issue
2 Make an effort to let go, giving the dying permission to leave in peace
3 Holding hands and talking can give more comfort than you think
4 Don't be so careful not to say the wrong thing that you leave the right thing unsaid
5 Don't shield children: prepare them for a death, and allow them to say a final goodbye
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